Some thoughts as to where lockdown has left our children.

| Dr Ilse Ruane

The coronavirus pandemic and subsequent lockdown has left us wondering how to accurately gauge the impact the situation is having on children, teens and people’s mental health and wellbeing. While people’s experiences of lockdown might be varied, everyone would confirm that it has been a challenging time in some or other way.  Parents are aware of the complex and sometimes …

Stop bad mouthing, rumours, gossip and talking behind backs

| Dr Ilse Ruane

Dr Ilse Ruane Rumour spreading, gossiping and talking behind people’s backs is destructive.  It destroys people’s reputations and causes a range of social problems such as exclusion.  As parents, educators and coaches, we need to teach children to live with integrity.  It is common knowledge that people love to gossip and we must teach children to stay out of it.  …

Let the children play.

| Dr Ilse Ruane

Sport should be fun! Sport brings camaraderie, unity and happiness to people of all ages. But it’s greatest contribution is in terms of mental, physical and social development to children and adolescents.  Staying active promotes good health. Research has shown that living an active lifestyle from a young age decreases the chances of serious medical conditions. Regular exercise can have a …

These are tough times but we can emerge stronger than before.

| Dr Ilse Ruane

The current situation in which we find ourselves, with Covid-19, can be taxing on us as people. These are tough times but we can emerge stronger than before should we actively work towards achieving that. I have been asked by several clients over the lockdown weeks what are some of the things I have observed from this challenging time.   1. …

Building resilience in children despite COVID-19.

| Dr Ilse Ruane

The most important factor in building resilience in children and helping them process situations is to have loving adults who are there for them and who are physically, emotionally and spiritually available. Children rely on us to figure out how to interpret events. Unfortunately, we cannot protect our children from the consequences of COVID-19. However, the way we respond and the …

Children, Parents and divorce.

| Dr Ilse Ruane

The current divorce rate in South Africa ranges between 42%-50%. The main causes of divorce include financial difficulties, infidelity and breakdown in communication. Divorce often presents with additional challenges such as abusive behaviour, financial manipulation, non-payment of maintenance, dishonouring of promises with regard to contact with children, a controlling ex, using the children as pawns, legal issues, protection orders and …

Anger Management

| Dr Ilse Ruane

Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion. But when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems such as problems at work, in your personal relationships, and in the overall quality of your life. And it can make you feel as though you’re at the mercy of an unpredictable and powerful emotion. Anger …